Trusting People on the Internet is Hard I’m Exhausted. I’m Also Angry. I also don’t have much energy to give, let alone trust these days. #TrustNoOne Every time I go to click the Twitter shortcut link or app, I wonder what fucked up crazy is going to happen. I’ve been on the internet since…
Let’s talk about Shaming Someone I adore recently sent a SnapChat photo of the cover of Best Women’s Erotica of the Year Volume 3 to her story. I lent her my copy when she expressed interest after reading Chemical [se]X 2: Just One More and her relative swiped Big Book of Submission Volume 2 I’d…
Yes, I meant to write Life Lemons. Life throws lemons, you gotta catch them and make something out of them, right? That’s what we try to do. That’s what I’ve been trying to do. If you’ve been around, you know I’ve been struggling to write for over a year. I’ve written here and there. I…
Looking back at all the times I let procrastination win in 2018 means one thing in 2019… It has GOT TO GO. I procrastinated so much in 2018 that the entire year almost feels a complete waste. Whether this means using a pomodoro timer or the annoying one on the microwave I use while cooking,…
This post is for me, an introvert, and issues I have regarding boundaries with people both in real life and on social media. I highly recommend blocking or muting anyone that makes you feel uncomfortable. I’ll tell you, if someone walks into a bar and I’m sitting there having lunch or dinner and a drink,…
Writers take from the reality around them and turn it into words. Sometimes the words are real truthy things and other times they are fantastically fictional. Either way, sometimes it can be hard to get those words flowing. That’s when you can find something to inspire you. A word, an image, a phrase, a quote….
There are so many ways I can answer the question “Why I Write” so I thought I’d share a few. Because if I didn’t my mind would explode. I saw on Twitter the hashtag “Why I Write” trending, so here you go. There were a few years that the only thing I wrote were a…
Truth and Shame. Some people believe they are speaking the truth, while others are made to feel shame. The keyword in that quote to me is ‘consent’. This isn’t another post on consent, but it is a post on how one person’s truth can make another person feel shame. Here I plan to share things…
Please welcome the amazing Wednesday Noir with some excellent advice regarding negativity on social media. It’s no secret if you follow me on Twitter that I’m an agoraphobe. I’m also extremely introverted. The only socializing I do is on Twitter. Is it healthy by most people’s standards? No. But I’m a happy hermit, and that…
Those of us that write, live, or both regarding the BDSM Lifestyle tend to focus on one major item above all others (or I hope they do…). A specific word that conveys many feelings and comes with the heaviest of weight. Consent. Without consent, it’s abuse. But what about outside the kinky bedroom activities? This…
Awhile back I tweeted out that I was going to #5SecondRule myself a novella and started writing a super hot story about a sexy lady and her man. Since then, I’ve written 6,765 words in the same story. It has been a few weeks since I started and I honestly thought I would be further along than I…
Dr. J.’s Famous Last Words: I have a pleasure platform and I am going to use it. When the three of us get together, we come up with all kinds of ideas. Unfortunately, at this time, the only way we ‘get together’ is by video-chatting. Sometimes, scheduling is a bit off. We have to make…
Everyone always talks about their resolutions for the new year, but I just choose a new word. Something to remind me what I need to work on for the year regarding my writing. Last year, I chose two words. Proficient and Consistent. I think I did well with both thanks to my biggest supporters (Dr….
When it comes to sex, even today, we are having to fight to bring it out of the darkness. Schools teach – if anything at all – abstinence and disease and the mechanics. They don’t bother to teach you about consent – because you shouldn’t be having sex anyway, right? Growing up, we didn’t talk…
Last week, I was invited to Skype into Dr. J.’s writer group. The ferocity of our combined energy caused funnel clouds to appear in my area, but hell, what fun it was! Last week the talented Dr. J. invited me to Skype into her writers group get together. You have no idea how excited I…
This post is a little… okay, a lot emotional. This is post two in my “Being a Good Author Friend” series. Stay Tuned, there’s always more. I recommend tissues if you watch This is Water. I highly recommend watching This is Water. Everyone is influenced by someone or something happening around them. While I attribute…
I want all authors to take a deep breath. And then let it out. Take another and let it out. One more time, breathe with me. I feel it’s been very difficult for some authors out there to be good author friends. Or, perhaps they are only good author friends to authors who fit a…
Here we go, when I divulge either too little or too much, or perhaps just enough? Stop by TMI Tuesday and get the questions, then answer them on your own blog. 1. Tell us a sexual thing/fantasy would you never want your friends to know you like or have done? Well, I write a range…
Today, let’s talk about social media and interacting with others. First off, pick your platform. If you love Facebook, then focus on that one. If you love Twitter, then make that your main squeeze. I tend to be a Twitter focus-type. While I do post to Facebook, it’s most often an auto-post via my WordPress….
When you haven’t done something in quite some time, it’s stupid to throw yourself overboard. And that’s where i make a boating pun when this has nothing to do with boating of any kind. Dr. J and I are trying to keep each other in check. We’re trying to make sure we keep our goals…
