Erotic Journal Challenge: Sex Toys in the Bedroom?
What props/toys would you consider taking to bed with you and your partner?
Sex toys in the bedroom? Yes, please!
Obviously, this is a negotiation type of conversation with any potential partner, before you enter the bedroom. The last thing you want to do is hop into bed and have someone pull out the whips and chains without knowing they’re into that type of kink.
One of the reasons I love my Roommate is because she has almost no filter. There are occasions where she stops herself, but those are rare. Her being able to let anything fly has given me the ability to stop censoring myself as much in person.
Asking friends what their safe words are started out to be funny, but it also opens up conversations about consent (in everything, not just in sex). I have introduced so many people to our SmutHouse Mascot Big Blue these days that it’s not a big deal anymore.
Now, for the record, Big Blue is a mascot. He has never seen the inside of any body. While most people might think that’s crazy or even a lie, that’s just how things work out. I’m not much for dildos, but I didn’t want to just leave him in the packaging. So, he became the mascot and has fun entertaining people on Twitter.
If you would like a Big Blue of your very own (or something close to him) check out SheVibe.com – they’re the makers of his awesomeness. He feels good in my hands, he’s got excellent suction when on a smooth surface, and he looks great in Googly Eyes.
I have been known to ask potential partners their thoughts on sex toys because I own sex toys. I’m supportive about people having sex toys in their life if they feel the need for them. There’s nothing shameful about having something to enhance your sexual wellbeing.
Sex Toys are Enhancements Not Replacements
So far, I haven’t had any issues with people I’ve dated in the past several months when it came to knowing I have them. I even had someone who encouraged me to bring them with me when I visited. We used them and had an excellent time.
I keep my Hitachi Magic Wand on my tv stand in my bedroom. We use it for muscle cramps, shoulder and neck pain, etc. I’ve used it to massage visitors if they mention they have sore back muscles. They tend to prefer my hands, but hey, I’m using the Magic Wand in a way that gives them an option.
My current hot guy likes knowing I have a sex toy. We’ve discussed some things regarding that. I’m confident he isn’t going to immediately feel as if he isn’t enough for me. And if he did get that feeling, due to the range of conversations we’ve had over the past couple of weeks, and how we’ve opened up to each other about insecurities, I am sure he would speak up.
Communication is Key
If you’re interested in using sex toys, but aren’t sure where to begin, I highly recommend doing some research.
Ask yourself how you enjoy touching yourself. How do you enjoy your partner touching you?
If you enjoy being sucked on, you might want a suction toy. And if you enjoy clitoral stimulation, you might enjoy something specific for your nub, vibrating panties for your vulva, or a rabbit type of sex toy that stimulates your clit.
Need more information about how a specific sex toy works? Try searching for the name of the toy + sex toy reviewer. There are some amazing testers out there doing the work for you. Plus, you might get a coupon code and who doesn’t love saving some cash?
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